Double Bind

In a nutshell - If a woman behaves in a “feminine” way, she may be liked, but she may not be respected or seen as a leader. If she operates in a “masculine” way, she's judged and disliked.

Take a look. I'd love to hear your thoughts on the topic.

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How Do You Create Real Confidence?

We often confuse confidence as something you're simply born with.  And whilst there is proof that there's a link between your DNA and your confidence, it's not the whole picture.  Confidence is an acquired skill.   

And why do I think confidence is SO important? I think Katy Perry sums it up quite nicely;   with confidence you can pull off just about anything!

The good news is that you don’t need to have a degree from Oxford or Cambridge, and you don’t need a great degree of sophistication either to create real confidence.

Learning how to create real confidence will change your life.

What is confidence? Confidence is...

  • An inner conviction about the outcome of a given situation.  The inner conviction that you have the ability to deliver and perform a given situation.
  • Assurance or complete and total persuasion.  A firm believe, trust, reliance; the belief in ones abilities. 
  • Trust or faith in a person or thing.  When you have a trusting relationship, you have confidence in it.
  • The settled peace of certainty in the soul.  Knowledge that you can achieve a goal.  The inner sense that all is right and well.
  • Fearless boldness; courage.  The quality that leads you to stand up under or endure adversity.  It causes you to undertake a difficult take with diligence.  You will never take a firm stance on anything without confidence.

So, why wouldn’t you want to build real confidence?  

Stay tuned for useful tips on how to build your confidence.  This such important stuff.  Confidence is the foundation to almost every skill in your armoury.  And most importantly confidence is the powerhouse that allows you to start taking real action. Confidence will set you apart from the crowd whilst driving you and your business to success.

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Love you all

Sarah 

Set Yourself Up To Succeed

You can switch these feelings and anchor the nervous, so you don’t freak out!  All you need to do is reframe these feelings to send a signal to your brain that you are excited.  This will help you focus on what you need to do. 

 
This is really powerful stuff for sales, public speaking, presentations.  Tell your brain that you are excited.  Say it out loud… I’m so excited … I’m so excited.  You’re reframing.   Your brain with reposition these thoughts and feelings from anxiety to excitement, leaving you to focus on your performance.


You’ll miss out on so much if you let fear run your life, let’s break the habit of worry and self-doubt and focus on achieving more in your life.

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Much love

Sarah

 
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3 Dangerous Confidence Thieves

“Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone.”

~Pablo Picasso

Confidence takes practice.  It sounds strange doesn’t it?  It’s call the confidence-competency loop.  The more you practice the more your confidence grows, and the more this will shine through into the exterior world.

Picasso is one of the most famous and successful artist.  Did you know that throughout his career, he created more than 20,000 paintings, drawings, sculptures, and ceramics? Despite the staggering number of pieces he created and his incredible talent he only has a handful of famous paintings.  

Dyson’s breakthrough came after 15 years and 5,127 prototypes. “Designing something that works well requires careful thought and precise measures, then relentless testing and prototyping …it takes time” - Dyson.

 there are also a number of other things that can steal your confidence.

1. Impatience  

Perhaps the biggest thing that is holding you back right now is your impatience.  How many things have you given up because you weren’t seeing the result you immediately expected?  In our society today we want immediate gratification and we all love our instant downloads and our Amazon Prime accounts but its unrealistic to think that you will achieve overnight success. 

I know.  This is super hard to digest when it seems like every advertisement you see is about how to make thousands of dollars in 5 minutes! Apologies to repeat this, but overnight success is extremely rare.

2. Fear

The fear of putting yourself out there into the big wide world can be so big you feel like your only option is to put the brakes on your project.  The trick is to move away from the hypercritical state of self-doubt and push your project forwards.  Past failures do not dictate your future, they create your future.  

So have the courage to take action despite the uncertainty.  

3. Helplessness

Are you are feeling insecure and have low self worth?  Ouch, I know this one well and boy oh boy does it hurt. 

My self worth used to be so low, I used to let people walk all over me!  And you know that you are in this way of thinking when you are leaning on excuses like “nothing ever goes my way” so I’m going to give up trying.  

You can break this pattern of behaviour by laughing at yourself a little.  Don’t take it so seriously. 

Shuffle the cards and find that something that brings in the energy.  Focus on the aspects of your life, business or career that energies you… then start collecting the success stories.

You are capable of remarkable things and you could never foretell and you will never discover without taking action.

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How To Build Real Confidence

Hi Gorgeous,

I hope you've had a brilliant weekend and you're full of the joys of spring.. its just around the corner promise!

Today I want to talk to you about confidence.

Confidence is the number one thing that people site as an issue when they’re not succeeding.  A lack of confidence can be crippling.  It will hold you back and stop you from creating the results you've really want.   You know deep down that if you overcome the confidence barrier, it will have a massively positive impact on your life.  And no matter how successful you may be, almost all of us could do with a confidence boost. 


It’s totally normal to lack confidence, feel fear and self-doubt.  I remember the days where I used to dread speaking in public. Although I didn’t know it then, this is a completely normal feeling as I wasn’t competent and I was in the process of learning a skill.  I'd literally feel sick to the point I couldn’t see properly; now I no longer fear public speaking.  In fact last week I moderated a panel, I massively enjoyed it and got a huge buzz! Is that a bit sad?!

Now I grab every opportunity to get myself out there, because I want to continually keep building my skills in this arena.


So what’s changed?  I decided to challenge myself at every single opportunity. And even though I felt the fear when asking for a speaking gig, I did it anyway. 


I made a decision a while ago that I am going to be a phenomenal speaker.  I knew that unless I pushed through those barriers of fear I wouldn’t get any better and I would continue to be crippled with self-doubt.  This simple philosophy is called the competency-confidence loop.  As you become more skilled at a task, your fear shrinks and your confidence grows. 

Sorry to be controversial, but I don’t believe in the fake it until you make it B.S (I know it's literally EVERYWHERE on the internet).   To me real confidence grows from action.  And let’s not sugar coat this, it's real confidence that’s going to make you successful.  Faking it won’t make you feel confident it will hyper exaggerate your imposter syndrome!   


I want you to grow the type of confidence that oozes complete and utter authenticity; the real you.  The type of confidence that you don’t have to think about. You just are, confident.

When you get to the point of thinking, acting and behaving as the real you, there are no voices in your head telling you that you are “completely rubbish at this”.  You're enjoying the process and you’re feeling the unstoppable confidence you’ve been craving.

So make a decision TODAY to stop thinking and start acting. Just decide that you are going to start believing in yourself and get going.  Decide to be confident.  Decide to give it a go!  You’ve got nothing to loose and everything to gain, because real confidence will take you to the next level (…and the one after that …and the one after that!).

Much love gorgeous one

Sarah xxx

 

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4 Questions That Will Transform Your Life

Hey Gorgeous,

How do you find and achieve what you really want from life?  Here are 4 really powerful questions to help you in seeking clarity and move you towards living a life abundant with joy.

1. What do I absolutely love doing in life?  

It’s within your love for music, exercise, horse riding, talking to friends …here you will find real joy, get excited and really feel alive.  Once you have figured out what your triggers are for bringing that joy into your life do one of those activities every single day.  

2. What would I do if I have a billion £GBP in my bank account?
I love this question.  It helps you think about your life without the limitations in place.  It might be that you want to buy a second home by the sea, travel the world, buy a wardrobe full of Channel. 

And then ask, what would you do with your time?  This is such a powerful question as it will really helps drawn you towards what you really want from this life.  Once you start dreaming and thinking without limitations you will really start to uncover your driving forces.

3. Who inspires me

List your greatest inspirations and the qualities that you admire about these people. Think about what really inspires you in this world. What you admire about others is also a quality that is deep within you. Know that you admire someone because they have similar qualities to you.

4. Do I truly believe in myself

If the answer to that question is yes!  Congratulations, I love that you are in this place.  But if you’re not, know that you are not alone.  Even the most externally confident people have self doubts and fears that they struggle to overcome.  

Asking yourself questions will change your life.  Self reflection is so powerful because if forces you to get out the mundane thought patterns that keep you stuck and pushes you towards thinking about a life of opportunity.  

Brendon Burchard asks how can you live more? Can you love more? Can you matter more?  Ask yourself these questions every single day.   Check in with yourself and make sure you’re living the best life you possibly can, so you can feel proud at the end of the week, month, year…life. Make sure you’re so proud of your answers to those questions and the legacy you will leave behind.

Join us at Home House on the 3rd March for your Transformation. If you've been thinking about making a transition in your life, you're looking to generate new ideas, you're ready to feel invigorated and live the best year yet this is for you!   Find out what you are really capable of.


Love you all and have a brilliant week!

Sarah

 
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5 Ways To Get Paid Doing What You Love

Hello gorgeous,

Have you ever wanted to get paid for doing what you love? I know, I know, silly question, of course you do!


Even if you don’t believe it just yet, you can make money out almost anything that you love doing.  But there are so many reasons why people don’t press ahead. We all plant these limiting ideas in our heads: I don’t have time, I don’t have the right skill set, I don’t have the money, the economy is not good right now… so, how do you over come this?

Start think about where the opportunities lie.  As an example there are going to be millions more people coming on line over the next few years and people are yearning for new information.  People are looking for wisdom and knowledge; you could offer huge value your chosen field.  You've got the ability to share your story with people in a way that helps them connect with you.  Millions of people are looking to improve their life and go to the next level. 

If you're an employee think about how can you add more value. How can you contribute more ideas, mentor more people, learn more, grow your network and take care of other people in your workplace?  Check in and be realistic, are you in the right place to build your career.


Trust in your own voice.  And get serious about what you're going to offer the world.  Here are 5 ways to help you get started:

1. Claim your topic and your expertise
What would you like to impart to the world?  You’ve got this far in the world so it's likely that you have been through your fair share of trails and tribulations. And I’m sure if you're determined to earn more and change your life, you’ve tried a few different things and you’ve had struggles.  Look back and see what you’ve learnt. 


People become influencers because they own it.  Even experts have to start somewhere so research, research and research some more.

2. Teach weekly and post out your content consistently

Start a blog, or post a video every week. And then post little clips and quotes, drawing people back to that blog.  You can put the content of you blog out to your audience for the remainder of the week.  You’ll soon have a library of exciting topics that you’ve covered.

3. Get in your customers head

Get to know you customer intimately, yes intimately!  Know what it will take for your people to double their revenues and grow their brand.  And go above and beyond don’t just solve their problem… solve their problem and then double it.  Just solving the problem isn't enough.  You’re teaching aspirations.  Think about their future and where they want to go. This is just as applicable wether you are running your own business and/or if you are an employee.

4. Create your offer or solution

Get into the detail of what is happening in the market place and how what is/is not working.  Really understand how you fit into the market place and how you can provide the most value.  You undoubtably have something truly unique to offer, so think outside the box about tailored solutions, it’s not the generic solution that is going to get you noticed.


5. Value yourself

Recognise that you’ve got something worth putting out into the world; it’s your job to get some support and get started! Where is your hunger and your passion? Even the biggest stars had to start somewhere; never let your small beginnings become small minded.

If you're still feeling a little lost, join us in Marylebone London at Home House on the 3rd March for your Transformation. If you've been thinking about making a transition in your life, you're looking to generate new ideas, you're ready to feel invigorated and live the best year yet, this is for you!   Find out what you are really capable of.


Love you all and have a brilliant week!

Sarah

Find Your Potential - My 6 Tips For Finding Your Potential

Hey gorgeous,

Do you know what you are really capable of?

You’re capable of doing anything you want in life just by making a conscious decision. If you’ve decided to not to settle for what you have right now (good choice!) then know that it’s possible to pursue an alternative direction in your life.   I used to tell myself that I couldn’t run my own dream business and be my own boss because I pay the mortgage, we need a monthly pay check in the household.  But, I’ve come to realise over time that these thoughts are just nonsense.  It’s these thoughts that keep us stuck and thinking small.  Ultimately we tell ourselves these stories because we’re scared; fearful of the unknown.  

Trust that your heart is bigger than your fears. When you face you’re fears head on and push through, this is where the real transformation happens.  When you push through those barriers and get connected to your why, the real magic begins to happen.  So how do I get the ball rolling?  You just need to start, start taking tiny steps  ...you have to start somewhere.

Here are my 6 tips to help you face your fears and start taking the action you need to take to become someone great:

1. Identify where you are emotionally

Guilty, overwhelmed, stuck, depressed, sad. You cannot change your life when you are stuck in these emotional states, there is not enough energy.  Once you identify the pattern and you see the truth, then you can decide how to fix the problem (whatever it is that is holding you back).

2. What is the antidote?  

If fear is controlling things, the antidote is courage.  In the present moment, being courageous may not necessarily feel good for you, but do it any way!  Try Mel Robbin’s 5-4-3-2-1 method.  Count backwards and then go for it;  push through your barrier. 

3. Treat your emotions like a muscle

 If you practice, you'll get stronger.   

4. People have patterns

What’s yours? Angry people get angry, sad people get sad.  This is where we naturally live in our “home” our comfortable place. We use triggers as events to get us “home”.  Identify the triggers and then find the antidote.  

5. Practice that emotion 

You can change your frustrations. If you work out what is causing your frustrations, then you can start to take action.  Be consistent in working towards making the change.  Remember your natural instinct will be to go back to your natural “home” but if you are aware of the trigger then keep practicing and soon a new muscle memory will kick in.

6. Condition the emotion

This is when your life changes, when your found new emotion is the new normal.  

Life is way to short to not truly follow your passions.  If you want to live your life with conviction and purpose, just start!  Success doesn’t come from nowhere.  Success starts from small beginnings and over time by taking consistent action becomes greatness.  “Greatness is not something predetermined, predestines or carved into your fate by forces beyond your control.  Greatness is always in the moment of the decision” - Jess Olson. 

Much love 

Sarah xxx

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Just Own It!

How happy are you that it's February?   Are you finding that you are powering through the year or are you feeling a little stuck? 

Empowering yourself to take real control of your life is so liberating.  It’s incredibly powerful to make a decision about something that has been on your mind for a while and address it head on, aka owning it!

Most experiences in life that inspire us to learn, grow, and thrive are challenging and scary. Often when we’re presented with an exciting or unfamiliar opportunity, we go into protection mode and defend ourselves against fear by rationalising our limitations: “I’m not really the kind of person who does X.” But this kind of compartmentalization only leads to frustration and dissatisfaction.

You intrinsically know when changes in your life need to be made.  Recognise where those changes need to be made and go for it.  Instead of questioning yourself, judging, and listening to the pesky inner critic, realise your incredible potential and give yourself the permission to unapologetically start taking action.  Kapow!  

Really focus pulling together your bigger strategy.  Once you’ve got your game plan figured out and you’ll know how you’re going to strategically tackle the issue, task or big goal you’ve set yourself. 

As you gain momentum by taking action every day towards those changes that you've decided to make, you will begin to feel like it is a much easier transition.  You’ll notice your stress levels come down, the overwhelm will subside, and you’ll start to gain clarity.

If you’re struggling, take some time out to visualise your desired outcome.  You can try associating your new goal with your song du jour and  just go for it!  Put your fear aside, put that tune on as loud as you can and get in the zone.  

If you need some support click on the link and join us in the Fiercely Ambitious Entrepreneurs Facebook Group and be cheered on by other incredible likeminded women. 

Life is way to short to not truly follow your passions.  Live your life with conviction and purpose, and just own it!

Much love 

Sarah xxx

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What Would You Do If You Weren't Afraid?

Hi Gorgeous,

How is your week going so far? 

Before we get stuck into today’s topic I just wanted to say a heartfelt thank you.  Thank you for your support, thank you for being you, and thank you for taking a few minutes of your precious day for connecting with me and reading my blog.  

Today I wanted to pop into your world and talk to you how together we can raise the profile of women in the world.  I’ve been thinking about this topic a lot of late.  In the UK it was 100 years ago that the 1918 Representation of the People Act was pasted by an overwhelming majority in the House of Commons.  It was an important milestone as it gave women of property over the age of 30 the right to vote.  This was a major success. 

We still have a huge way to go to make this a world of equality but it is really down to us to make the changes happen.   It’s a topic that I am fanatically passionate about because for WAY too long we women have held ourselves back.  We lower our own expectations of what we can achieve.

I take my role of helping women build their dreams in this complex world of ours very seriously.  I truly believe that every single one of us deserves to live an incredible life, full of abundance, happiness and joy for the world.

Let’s motivate and encourage each other, and foster a world where we care deeply for one another, where we care about the abundant opportunities that are available to each and everyone of us.

Personal motivation is an incredibly complex thing, molded by our internal fears but also strongly influenced by the parenting we receive, the peer group that surrounds us as we grow, the opportunities we seek and the connections we make.  

Click on the link and join us in the Fiercely Ambitious Entrepreneurs Facebook Group and surround yourself by other incredible likeminded women. 

Explore and find out what you are really capable of!

Much love

Sarah xxx

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5 Tips To Becoming More Confident

Hi Gorgeous,

Happy Friday! I hope you've had the most fantastic week.

You may have thought to yourself on a number of occasions when you are shaking in your boots waiting to find a small gap in the conversation so you can raise your point… “Why can’t I just be more confident?”. Well, you can learn to become more confident by implementing some simple smalls steps. Here are my 5 tips to becoming more confident:

1. Think of confidence as a journey

Every small step that you take in the right direction will build upon your confidence. The result - watch your success rapidly accelerate.  

Babies are not born with confidence, but their confidence grows as they practice and develop.  As you increase your effort into learning a skill you become better at it. And so the loop continues.

High achievers don’t start off feeling naturally confident, deep down they will most likely feel like a complete fraud until they have developed a proficient set of skills for a new task.  Learn to take growth and development in your stride and envision yourself as a work in progress!

Why bother?  Well, without confidence you will revert to fear, and when you’re fearful you won’t take any action.

2. Change your posture

If you are sitting down check your posture, pay attention to you where you’re positioned.  What is your body language saying to you?  

When you are confident, you make yourself big.  Think of Bolt crossing the winning line, what does he do?  He throws his arms in the air - he’s confident, he’s just won, he makes himself as big as possible.  

Conversely if you make yourself small, try sitting hunched over with arms folded, you will start to feel fearful and you’ll begin to shrink away.

Become very aware of your body language and how you’re positioning your body.  Check in with yourself frequently on this.  Sit tall, proud and be present.

3. Practice being confident

Sounds weird right?  Just try it.  Choose a safe environment and run a little experiment with the people around you (I’d suggest trying this at the supermarket).  

When you’re standing at the cashiers till strike a high power pose.  Think Wonder Woman on a mission. Stand with your feet apart, your hands on your hips, and your chin tilted upward. Have a high energy chat about the weather, your kids… whatever! Check in with how you are feeling now you’ve adopted your power stance.  When you pretend to be powerful, you’re more likely to feel powerful.

When the time comes to go live and put your practice into action use broad gestures.  Encircle your audience with your arms, inviting them into your space. Use positive body language because it will make you feel bigger than you really are. Pretend to feel confident and you’ll become confident.

It takes practice. Prior to your presentation or meeting, find a quiet place to centre yourself and get “in the zone.” Practice your gestures. Stand tall and remind yourself that you’re the expert, and feel your confidence grow. Then you “become it,” the power person that your audience came to hear.

Seriously this stuff really works!  Play around with the power poses, have fun with it and watch you confidence levels increase. People don’t necessarily remember you because of what you say they remember you because of your charisma, and the delivery of your message.

4. Smile!  

“When you’re smiling, the whole world smiles with you.”  Smiling sends a party signal to your brain that tells you that you’re happy.  It might be forced, doesn’t worry it doesn’t matter no-one will know, and it really makes a big difference to how you feel. 

A smile is so important; it tells everyone you are happy, confident and most important competent.  Looking sad or anxious, makes people wonder if you know what you are really doing. 

Regardless of your motivation to smile, its contagious and you will make someones day by smiling.  You’ll note that people just can’t help but smile back at you.  So, smiling is a win-win and a shortcut to succeeding in business.  

5.“Fake it until you become it”

Harvard social psychologist Amy Cuddy says “Fake it until you become it”.  Practice every day where ever and whenever you get the opportunity.  Tiny tweaks over time lead to big difference. “Time is the force that magnifies those simple daily disciplines into massive success” - Jeff Olson.  Don’t take it too seriously, enjoy and just go for it! 

Bring on the weekend!

Much love Sarah xxx

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5 Ways To Find Your Perfect Mentor

The term mentor originates from Greek mythology involving Athena, the legendary hero Odysseus, and his son Telemachus.  In the myth Athena disguises herself as a character called “Mentor” and encourages Telemachus to set off on a successful quest to find his father and defeat their enemies.  Athena’s role is the source of the name “mentor” we use today.   Athena shielded Telemachus from his enemies using her power and experience.

A mentor can be your most powerful allie.  Mentoring is a process that enables business professionals to reach their full potential.  They will help you find your direction, improve leadership skills, develop competencies and powerful connections. If you speak to anyone who is a senior leader in your organisation or has built an incredible company they will tell you that one of their most valuable assets when building their dreams was the support of their mentor.

And there is a financial and social benefit to mentoring.  It is estimated that unleashing the full potential of women in the UK alone would be worth and estimated £15-23B to the UK economy (Business in the Community 2016).   Wow, this is powerful stuff! 

Mentoring gives you time to think, find two-way inspiration, empowers and develops confidence, generates creativity and innovation, and develops leadership skills.  Mentoring is a powerful personal development tool.  By the way these are also skills that you can pass on to your friends, family and children.  

There are loads of ways to get you started.  Here are my 6 ways to find the perfect mentor for you:

  1. Get plugged into your community and start building relationships.  Join a Facebook Group, pick up a book, subscribe to a podcast, head over to YouTube and tune into the explosion of free advice.  
  2. Who is the best in your industry?  Get connected with them.  Go to their live events, show up in their world, observe and engage with them.  There are incredible people in the world who understand your success is their success, so engage with those individuals who you know care about other people in world and not just their bank balance.  
  3. Don’t just look up, also look to the side.  Your colleagues who are alongside you are often closer to resolving the issues you are dealing with right now.  The people above you are further ahead on their journey and whilst they offer super valuable advice it may not necessarily be relevant to where you are at today.  So don’t miss out on valuable opportunities by insisting on a more “senior” mentor.
  4. If you have decided to invest in a mentor or coach you MUST do your due diligence.  Does their salesy chat match up to your expectations?  Research their testimonials, Google them ask for specific results, and understand what measurable impact they have had on their clients lives.  Big statements are great but it won’t necessarily help you build a thriving business, grow as a business leader and develop the life you have been dreaming about. All that glitters is not gold - make sure you make a smart investment.  
  5. Earn respect and trust.   Do great work and be out there making waves in the world.  “If you want someone to invest in you give them a reason to believe in you” Marie Forleo

Love you all.

Sarah xxx

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Networking for Business Success

Stop collecting business cards and start making meaningful connections.

Love it or loath it, networking is so powerful for building a thriving business or climbing the corporate ladder.  Even when you’re a new Mum looking for some sanity, networking becomes a critical skill.  It surprises me that so often I hear other women saying that we are not good at networking, this is total rubbish!  It’s so often the ladies in the household that create the vital support networks for our families; it’s this network that becomes the life-line in difficult times.

Networking is not just about swapping business cards; you want to learn how to network for life, for endless value, build a business or to significantly enhance your career success.  I climbed the corporate ladder purely by having the right people in my network, and the strong foundations of my business exists today because of my network.

So, if you are looking to increase the quality and quantity of your best clients and/or you want to develop relationships with other incredible professionals you need to get yourself out there! 

The traditional idea of networking is to attend events complete with a room full of people just like you.  The problem with most networking events is that most people have themselves at the centre of their thoughts, whether it be signing up a new client, creating awareness for their business or connecting with someone in the hope of developing a mutually beneficial relationship.  They are looking for instant gratification.

Gary Vaynerchuck says “effective networking is about reversing the game everybody instinctively plays.  It’s about patience and buildup, not the close.  We celebrate audacity and courage instead of patience and value.”  Think of it like a dating game.  It’s not about the one night stand, its about finding your soul mate.  You’re looking for the golden nugget, the long lasting committed relationship.  

Now, I am not saying don’t attend networking events.  I’ve met some incredible people at these socials.  However you need to do something to facilitate growing valuable connections built on long-lasting trust.  How do I do this?  You shift the focus from you to thinking of them.  

Ask yourself the question, how can you become their ultimate resource.  How can you be the person that connects them to a new contact, recommends another trust professional, hairdresser, cake-maker or whatever it is that makes their life a hell of a lot easier and saves them time. Become connected to all the top businesses in your orbit. 

By becoming a connector you become a go-to person, the trusted adviser and you will be surprised how quickly this approach will be reciprocated.  Ensure that you are sharing your message along the way, so that they understand you and your business.  Because guess what, when you pay it forward, go the extra mile for someone and build mutual trust, you are at the forefront of their mind when it comes to recommending a business expert (yes that’s you!). 

So what are you waiting for?  Get out there, meet new people and remember to do it in a mindful way by always asking yourself the question, how can I become their ultimate resource? This takes a shift in mindset, but by adding extraordinary value, by learning about their issues and by creating opportunities for your clients, you can leverage your strategic partnerships and create a powerful network.

Share your vision, your ambitions, and the intimate details of organisation, and build a network of people that you love.  Attract those likeminded, A-list incredible men and women just like you.  The deeper the quality of your network the greater the magnitude your success. 

Come and join us in the Fiercely Ambitious Entrepreneurs Facebook Group, connect, build your network and magnitude your success.

Love you all.

Sarah xxx

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Be a World-Class Achiever with Super Sized Goals

Hello Gorgeous,

Tomorrow, January 15th, is officially Blue Monday 2018. Blue Monday is the name given to the day in January (typically the third Monday of the month) claimed to be the most depressing day of the year.  So what can you do to beat off the Monday blues, feel fresh, full of energy AND achieve your goals? 

1. The most important thing to understand is that you need to be healthy.  You can have all the money in the world but if you’re sick and unable to function properly, you’re no use to anyone.  Preventative care is the winning formula in business and life.  Prioritise yourself, if you need to spend money anywhere, spend it on your health.  

Get moving.  You’ll feel the energy building when you get moving.  It will be this energy that takes you to the next level in your life. 

2. What ever your goal is, realise that it is probably not the real goal that you really want. It’s not the car that you’re chasing, it’s the life experience that you really want. 

What ever that experience is that you’re seeking, know that you can start right now.  You just need to identify the Big Why.  What is it that you really want? Once you have written those goals, you can begin… yes right now! The only thing holding you back is you.  So start… get into it!  I promise you that you’ll get hooked and you’ll advance more quickly.  Take the challenge head on, tackle those goals and don’t be afraid.  

3. Get obsessive about 3 things: your energy, your attitude and your commitment to habits and routines… and remove the distractions.  Long term achievement comes from your habits and routines.  The inbox that you obsessively check every five minutes is just a distraction, it is not going to help you achieve those super sized goals you are striving towards.

4. Your hearts is bigger than your fears.  Show people your heart and connect to them.  When you’re yourself, even when you’re at your most most vulnerable, you will feel in transformation your own life.  Why?  Because people will see themselves in you, and you become human rather than the Instagram photo that you portray yourself to be.  Being vulnerable is incredibly empowering.  

5. Your success is likely to be directly proportional to the amount of knowledge you possess. Knowledge about your products… technology… and market. Learn more, maximise your potential and earn more.   Position yourself for tomorrow.

Earlier this week I delivered an incredible training session about Becoming a world-class achiever - bring on the super sized goals!  Join me for our next training at Fiercely Ambitious Entrepreneurs.  I cannot wait for you to join my community of big 2018 world-class achievers! 

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Sarah xxx

Bye Bye My Old Friend 2017

Hello Gorgeous,
This year has without a doubt been the biggest roller-coast of my entire life.  Getting to share this wonderful life with our little girl Chloë has been the absolutely highlight for me.  I’ve learnt so much from watching this incredible little person grow, and I don’t take it for granted. I consider it a huge privilege be a part of her world.  

Growing a business has also hoofed some life lessons my way too!  I’ve learnt so much from my incredible clients, and I’m so much stronger with my community of Fiercely Ambitious Entrepreneurs by my side. I now feel like I know my true supporters, my true friend and those people who truly have my back.  I’ve been so humbled by how people have given up their time and space to help out our little family; I have so many people who I’m grateful for in my life.

There has also been a few bumps in the road!  Being displaced from our home, the house renovation, a new baby, huge pressures on our finances, running businesses and generally dealing with a big shift in our lifestyle has put phenomenal pressure on my marriage and whilst there were times where I didn’t think we would make it though, despite the odds, we love each other dearly and have committed to making this work ***queue soundtrack “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”! 

Here are my 6 key lessons that I have learnt this year:

1. Taking care of yourself is fundamental for your success

If you’re not functioning properly, too tired, not enough energy, you’re are not exercising, working too hard etc… then you’re no use to anyone and you certainly won’t deliver the best results for your clients.  You need to take care of your body, mind and soul to ensure you can contribute your best results.  Once you firing on all cylinders, you can be generous with other people and give the world the very best of you.


2. Clarity - get clear on your big why
Why are you doing this? What is that it that you truly desire?  Take that big dream and define your mission and then break it down into manageable chunks.  Each chunk will break down further into tasks that you can easily achieve, that move you towards your bigger goal.  

3.Believe in yourself
Your success is a direct result of how much you believe in yourself and your unflagging ability to push through the noise, the naysayers and the doubters.  They may think what you are trying to achieve is the impossible, but only you truly know if you can do it!  What makes other people the expert on whether you can achieve your goals or not?  Don’t let them be the dictator of your destiny, it’s down to you and only you.

4. Surround yourself by other remarkable, like-minded people
Like-minded people will believe in you and encourage you to continue moving towards your goals even when feels like there is a mountain to move.  I’ve found my community of women in the Fiercely Ambitious Entrepreneurs my biggest supports through the good, the bad and the incredible. They just get it, and they get me!  Your community will give you advanced feedback so you can get smarter and smarter.  They will validate that you’re on the right track and keeps your dreams alive.

5. Take action.  Show up every single day keep inching towards your dreams
The power of intention is amazing, but you have to be moving towards your goals by taking action.  Whether is be journaling, calling a client, give back to other …keep the momentum going.

6. Focus
Don’t let your actions be defined by your inbox and what everyone else wants you do.  Study your craft, be the expert in your field.  What will it take to become the best of the best?  Reading a book a week? Taking a course? Study, pay attention, and learn from the best.  And then practice, practice, practice. This is the way that you will develop real competence and in turn you will be strong and confident in your delivery. 

Have yourself a wonderful New Years Eve tonight Gorgeous << Test First Name >> and I will see you in 2018.  I cannot wait to see what is ahead.  Will 2018 be your year of Transformation?  Set your intention for 2018 to be the happiest year of your life and every day, follow your hear and instinct down new paths.

This is a world of opportunities - this will be your year!
Much love
Sarah xxx

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Merry Christmas you Filthy Animals! And a Happy New Year!

Hi Gorgeous

A very quick note from me to you.  Wishing you a very Merry Christmas with your family and friends.  I absolutely love Christmas. It’s a time for inexcusable downtime with family and friends.  

I want to wish you the very happiest of Christmas’ and thank you all from the bottom of my heart for making 2017 one of the most memorable years of my entire life.  I'm so grateful to have you all in my community, and I’m so pleased that you will be by my side, joining me for an incredible 2018... great things are happening!

2018 is my transformational year and it can be yours too!  I've found my business mojo and I'm building upon an incredible brand.  

If it’s not obvious to you yet why you've decided to go into business, climb that corporate ladder, or where the next chapter is going to take you, stick with it, I promise you it will all become clear.  Much of what I’ve done so far has been very instinctive. It’s been a bit of a mystery and I’ve felt like my destiny was shrouded with a grey haze!  Now I have a clear intention as to where this crazy adventure will take me.

This is your time to celebrate and enjoy your time.  Brace yourself for an incredible 2018.  I know beyond reason that in-spite of any fears, my path is illuminated, and yours will be too.  Have faith, get excited about the future because THIS…IS…HAPPENING!

Much love 

Sarah 

5 Steps to Becoming More Confident

Surprisingly to many, you are not born with confidence, it’s an acquired skill.  There are simple changes that you can make that will exponentially increase your confidence.  Here are my 5 steps to growing your beautiful boldness.

1. You Don’t need 100 reasons to be confident

Say to yourself - “Today I’m going to absolutely believe in myself and be more confident”.  Before you leave the house look in the mirror and say “today I am going to own it!”

You don’t need 100 reasons to be more confident.  Have you ever had a day where you just absolutely crushed it?  This is the power of your heartfelt intention, your day was incredible because you woke up thought about the outcomes for your day, and then set your mind to achieve those goals. 

Intention is extremely powerful,  It energies you and transforms self doubt.  It will help you let go of the past and focused on the your goal.

So, simply decide you are going to be more confident and then just get out there any do it! You will massively reap the benefits. “You don’t attract what you want. You attract what you are” - Wayne Dyer.

 

2. Be yourself

Real confidence is having the ability to authentically express who you are.  Have a clear intention of who you’re going to be and pursue the things you desire.

Being your authentic self makes a huge difference to the way that people perceive you.  Think of a life without Lady Gaga!  If she had not embraced and celebrated her differences then we would have a much less colourful world!   When you’re living with integrity for who you are and what you believe, you feel fully alive and authentic, in turn you feel more confident.  

Acknowledge your key skills, talents and realise your potential; be your own cheerleader and celebrate your fabulous self.  Believe in yourself and integrate each success into your heart and your identity.  This is one of the key steps of your personal development and growing your confidence.  

 

3. The Confidence-Competency Loop

Our success accelerates when we are confident.  Without confidence we revert to fear, and when we are fearful we don’t take any action.

There is a simple formula that reminds us that as you become more competent at something, you become more confident.  Babies are not born with confidence, but their confidence grows as they practice and develop.  As you increase your effort into learning a skill you become better at it.  

High achievers also don’t start off feeling naturally confident, deep down they will most likely feel like a complete fraud until they have developed a proficient set of skills for the new task.  Learn to take growth and development in your stride, see yourself as a work in progress!

 

4. Momentum

Think about what small things you can do to move ahead.  In your career or business, what can you do every single day that will add to your brilliance?  Don’t just go and crush it today and then forget about it; take action every single day and deepen your confidence.

The opportunities are limitless, we live in a world of abundance, but you got to take action every single day and in order to move towards your big goals.  

 

5. Love the magical adventure!

Take a moment every day to recoup and gain perspective.  Try viewing life as a magical adventure.  See the beauty everywhere you go and just have fun with it - don’t take it all too seriously!

I know that it’s sometime super hard when you are in the thick of things or you are working a job wear you have to wear that mask every single day, but ask yourself “what is the worst that can happen?”.  If you answer that question honestly you will find that the worst that can happen is that you have a bit more fun, maybe people will start to notice the subtle changes, but most importantly you will feel and be yourself. And honestly that’s who you truly want to be, the sparkly, real and confident version of you! 

If you have found value in this newsletter, please share it with your friends.  It would mean the world to me.

Thanks again and have an amazing remainder of the week.

Much love

Sarah 

Xxx

Is Your Life On Auto Pilot?

Have you ever arrived at work and wondered how you got there?  You literally have no recollection of the journey?  You’re not alone; most of us at some point have blanked out a large chunk of time, which is then lost forever.  Be conscious of when this happens to you, it may be that red flag waving at you telling you that you’ve switched off and checked out; this ultimately leaves us feeling unfulfilled and unhappy.

Do you feel like you have lost your sparkle?

Living your life on auto pilot leads you down the dark path of least resistance.  And that includes saying yes to things when every bone in your body is screaming “no don’t do it”!!!  You’ll find yourself agreeing to that date you don’t want to go on, working late, and spending time with people that drag you down. Being on auto pilot dulls your ability to make strong, conscious choices that serve you in the long term interests of living an incredible life.  You’ll be feeling like you’re trapped in The Matrix feeling pulled in two different directions.  

96% of the 3,000 people surveyed in a recent study commissioned by Marks & Spencer said that they were living life on autopilot.  Of course our subconscious makes many decisions on our behalf as there are way too many decisions to consciously make on any one given day (our minds are incredibly clever at stopping the overload on our behalf) but too many small mindless decisions can have a huge impact on the way our lives are shaped.  

Your auto pilot shuts down the part of your brain that encourages you to be brave and step out of your comfort zone, instead you sleep walk through life in an unconscious haze.

There are 3 classic archetypal people running through life on auto pilot:

1. The people pleaser - if you find yourself in situations where you are uncomfortable but you carry on regardless; for example, something that isn’t in line with your values. Or, If you struggle to say no to situations or you change your behaviour to fit in, these are clear people pleaser signals.  Take a pause - it's OK to say no.

2. The pacer - people who are always looking for the next thing and struggle to live in the here and now …I recognise myself in this description! 

3. The passenger - individuals are often just sliding along the course of least resistance, driven fare more by what scares them (disapproval, rejection, uncertainty) rather than by what inspires them.

Do you recogniser yourself in the 3 types? - Its time to wake up and get tuned back in to your life.

If you feel stuck on autopilot, and unable to make the necessary changes to change the trajectory of your life?  Don’t worry, you’re not alone. Come on over and join us in Fiercely Ambitious Entrepreneurs and surround yourself with incredible women.  You will be so inspired to see the changes that are happening every single day! Tune back in and make a consciously great decision.

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Much love

Sarah  xxx

Mastering the Magic of Money

“Only those who become money conscious ever accumulate great riches.  Money consciousness means that the mind has become so saturated with the desire for money, that one can see one’s self already in possession of it” - Napoleon Hill

I consider it a real privilege to be in your inbox every week.  Your time and attention is not something I take lightly.  I truly believe that together we can change the world. And having the power to change the world starts with your money mindset.  Does that sound like a strange thing to say? I think not!  …without having real power over your money, how can donate to your favourite charity, treat a friend to lunch, or pay for those dancing lessons your little girl has been nagging you about?  

Your relationship with money is the key to you finally earning the income you deserve, bringing more abundance to your life and business, and enriching the lives of those around you.

If you’re not willing to address your relationship with money, and take action to change your situation you will get left behind, and this will leave you frustrated.  It is possible to have a little bit of success with limiting money beliefs and habits, but you will end up sabotaging your success and your money disappears as quickly as it enters your bank account.  

“One of the most common causes of failure is the habit of quitting when on his overtaken by temporary defeat” - Napoleon Hill. This was certainly the case for me not so long ago when I literally emptied the last £40 out of my bank account.  I was petrified at this point and scared about what was about to come.  I envisaged a debt tsunami!  

You may also find yourself stuck in a poverty or scarcity mindset.  The universe responds to whatever you are putting out, so if your mindset is about grown and increase, then this is what you will receive back.  If you are fearful and critical, this is what you will receive.

Easy to say! I hear you.

If this is you, let go of everything you are holding onto right now.  Let the day go and then let the warm, inner peace wash over you as you close your eyes just for a few minutes to get really centred. Creating some room in your heart and mind will help you move through the scarcity.

Keep pushing through; push through the uncomfortable pain barrier, and believe me I know your pain!  The universe really does have your back.  

If you have found value in this news letter, please share it with your friends.  It would mean the world to me.

Thanks again and have an amazing weeked.

Much love

Sarah 

Xxx

5 Simple Money Mindset Shifts that Payoff Huge!

Hello gorgeous peeps,

Last week I was really focused on my own money mindset and boy oh boy there were some demons in my closet to shake out.  I made some monumental inroads; I now feel lighter and I’ve got the spring in my step back.  Since putting in the work I’ve had the tune “Dreams Can Come True” running through my mind!  

Money mindset work really is incredible - already I’ve had a free cab ride from the tube whilst it was pouring down with rain on Saturday, I received $120 from some tiles I returned and I’ve booked a new client. Whoop whoop!  

It pays huge dividends to work on your money mindset on an ongoing, daily basis.  It's like exercise the more money mindset work you do, the stronger you become. Remember thoughts become things …And with the holidays coming up (yes there really are only 63 days to Christmas!), travel, parties, gifts and extra time with the family it’s inevitable that money will be a hot topic.  So, stop telling yourself that you are not good with money and start taking actions to improve your money mindset.  

There is so many powerful changes you can make to improve your relationship with money. Here are 5 simple tips for you:

  • The key one for me is, any time you part with money bless it and say “there's always more where that came from”
  • You can become financially fabulous and learn to value yourself, train that money mentality muscle!  Every day write down the 3 things that you value about yourself or where you add value to someone else's life.   Adding value to someone's life can be smiling, letting someone know that you love them. Celebrate yourself. 
  • Oprah says “Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough”.
  • Spread the wealth.  When you are feeling a lack around money, donate to your favourite charity.
  • Respect every $,€ or £ that crosses your path.  If you see a penny on the street, grab that penny and be so grateful that you saw the opportunity.  It's a sign that you are on the right track for receiving money.  Every penny counts. 

For more practical steps click the link for my 7 module self-study course Becoming Financially Fabulous.  I give you the armoury you need to grow your income and become financially wealthy.

Have you broken free from the scarcity of money?  Or, if you haven't managed to do so yet, what actions are you going to take to change your story.  I’d love to hear from you.  How exactly did you do it?

If you have found value in this news letter, please share it with your friends.  It would mean the world to me.

Thanks again and have an amazing week.

Much love

Sarah 

Xxx